Oh, To Be Engaged!

Well it’s the first day of 2016, 231 days until I get married! My fiance likes to remind me how many days I have left until I’m tied down for all eternity by the power of the ring! I’ve never worn a ring on my finger before so I imagine that It will be quite difficult getting used to that ring of metal always being there…the sentimental feeling will mean everything to me, just the feeling of something wrapped around my finger will take some getting used to, like if someone had never worn clothes before in their life then all of a sudden, they started wearing pants every single day! 

A ring that symbolizes our love for one another! But what if it falls off and I don’t notice or it gets caught on something and tears my finger clean off?! I know that sounds crazy but I don’t know, I’ve never worn a ring before…ever! I don’t even know what finger it goes on as of yet! I think it’s the second one on my left hand but I can’t be certain until I try some on!

That’s the engagement ring that I gave her, not bad if you say so! I proposed at the end of 2012 and it’s now 2016, we’ve had to wait almost 4 years for our wedding day this August, still have a little more to wait but time seems to be flying by faster as each year passes by! It’s crazy because I imagined that as you get older, time would slow down…but apparently it’s the opposite! Crazy! #lovinglife Do hashtags work on WordPress??? No idea! 

I have been with Emma for 4 years now and by the time we get married, it’ll have been nearly 5 but it almost feels like it was yesterday when we started going out with each other in the first place! I mean so far, together we have traveled all over the place

• Tenerife
• America (Orlando, Florida)
• London
• Bruges, Belgium
• Amsterdam, Holland
• Sorrento, Italy
• Paris, France

Not bad in just 4 years if you ask me! I guess we have the travel bug and we like to explore new places all the time, it’s fun and it’s always great to visit and new culture and learn about it! So many other places I hope we get to see someday!  

Back in 2012, my time proposing to Emma was a little tricky and it’s origins are a bit strange…yet one thing led to another and a chance emerged and I decided to take it In Bruges- READ HERE! it’s a good story, If I’m not blowing my own trumpet a little bit…I’ll stop now but you can’t blame me for me somewhat proud of it…everyone else keeps telling me too but I don’t want to appear like I’m a bragger or some sort of Love Expert…I just did what I thought would make Emma happy and to show her just how much I really care about her, that’s all…I wasn’t trying to show off to others or anything, all I cared about on that weekend was having a nice break with Emma and hopefully she would feel the same as I do about her and she would want to spend the rest of her life…with me.  

If I had written out a checklist before I started all of this, it might have looked a little bit like this…maybe. 

1. Get Engagement Ring 
2. Tell Emma we are going to Hull for a weekend
3. Get a hold of her passport
4. Ask her family for their blessing
5. Hide Engagement Ring From Emma 
6. Convince her Friends to not talk to her for a few weeks (I had told them of my plans) 
7. Go To Hull and somehow get to Docks without giving too much away
8. Go To Deep Aquarium 
9. Call Taxi
10. Have No Choice To Tell Her About Bruges But Not Engagement 
11. Take phone off Emma just before boarding ship (Can’t take any chances) 
12. Spend Next Day Spoiling Her Rotten (Horse+ Carriage Ride, Chocolate Factory, Italian Restaurant, Belgian Chocolate) 
13. As Sun Sets, Lead Emma To Lake Of Love Bridge 
14. Propose As The Sun Sets
15. Hopefully, She has Said Yes! 
16. She Did! 

That was the best moment of my entire life up to this point, and I can’t describe it to you on here because I would take up at least 5000 words! But it made me so happy to know that someone does love me that much that they would want to spend their entire life with you, raise a family and create memories together, it means so much to me and it does to her as well, I know that we are meant to be together and before you say ‘That’s what everyone says’ I know life can be uncertain but if you feel strongly about something than you are going to go through life sticking by it, even though you know it might not last forever…everyone dies at some point but I truly believe I will always be with Emma, until the day I’m an elderly man on my death bed! but screw thinking negatively, I love her and I always will, we’ve survived through so much already, many things have tested our relationship and it has just made us stronger! 

Bruges was amazing, we really need to go back to that wonderful place one day! That was 2012 and now it’s 2016 and we have our eyes set on a brand new destination to explore and enjoy…The Land Of The Rising Sun, Japan!

I have always wanted to travel here and Emma has agreed that we should go somewhere like Japan for our honeymoon so I definitely can’t wait to get married, then travel to Japan for my honeymoon! It feels like the moment we knew we were going to France, our heads full of wondering what we would get up to while we were there, it’s no different for Japan really but that is still a bit away, we have so much to get sorted out before then!

I also have a Stag Do to prepare for…lord knows what I might have to go through…I mean my groomsmen could have anything planned for me…I dread what might happen to me…as long as I get to go to a water park at some point though and as long as I’m not tied to a lamppost in the middle of somewhere…I’m sure I’ll be fine! I mean, how crazy can they get? 

For those getting married this year, I wish you all the best of luck in your preparations and a big congratulations from me!  2016 looks set to be a wonderful year for us all, I sure hope it is so! HAPPY NEW YEAR ALL! 

Candy Floss and Boredom

Well, it’s Sunday and I always consider this a day of relaxing, I mean it’s the end of the week and to be honest…no football is on so why not? I managed to sleep in until 10 am before the alarm went off and we both had to rush out of bed so we could go to one of the wedding venues for our upcoming wedding and have another look about and hopefully get some more ideas for the big day! We’ve been to one of them before and to be honest…this one wasn’t as good as the last one, not as much there this time about as we have already made most of the decisions regarding the wedding but it was worth a shot..and I did get some free Candy Floss so I got something out of this! They had American Vintage Cars there but Emma is dead set on having a Limo! Should get really busy come January, getting everything ready for August…might make time go by quicker as well although no one should wish their time away….you only get one life after all! After that we had to go to Emma’s aunt’s house for a bit and we ended up watching….Eddie Stobart…seriously, how is that show so popular…I’m sure there’s a reason but before going back home, I began to feel somewhat bored and that’s where it sank in…I didn’t feel like doing much else now for the rest of the day. 

How do you combat pure boredom? I mean once your bored, how do you get out of that rut?…today is meant to be a day of rest after all for me really after a long week yet I can’t be bothered to do all that much really…I’ve relaxed, watched TV, gone on my PS4 and just had a nap, yet it’s a lovely day outside, slightly chilly but the sun is out…does anyone else not feel like doing anything else today….kind of like that Bruno Mars song and it’s bad for writing if your bored…nothing inspires you to write anything down. Very frustrating…maybe I should go for a walk or something…One thing I like about the weekdays is that I feel like doing more…no idea why that is but it is something that I have discovered about myself and at the weekend, I tend to shut down and relax for the two days…more on Sunday if Arsenal don’t play on that day…maybe my Autism has something to do with that, who knows?

I’m sure I ain’t the only bored individual on this planet today but i just can’t be bothered to go and walk up that mountain today when I know it’ll still be there tomorrow…not very informative today am I? Well can’t feel that spark today, I wish I could magically make it appear but listening to High School Musical probably isn’t helping…so cringe worthy…so glad I didn’t go to a school in America, especially after watching many movies and TV programs about it…especially High School Musical…yeah let’s all break out into song all the time…too weird for me…different groups and being cool is all that matters…just be you and screw what others think but don’t write a musical about it! Write, I’ll stop here before I sound too grumpy! I’m sure life in American Schools isn’t exactly like that! I wouldn’t know, I’m British and I have this on my TV…well computer

Still thinking about Vlogging as well…plenty of ideas so I’m having good ideas today…that’s something I guess.

Here’s something to cheer me up with some Fawlty Towers

More Soon

365 Days To Go!

It’s only really just dawned on me this morning that it is now only 365 Days to go until my Wedding Day, just one year to go now until my soul mate becomes my one and only, my wife! it’s like a border that we have just crossed and now we’re going up the final slope to reach the summit of the hill, where the church is…granted it’s still a whole year away but at one point it was 3 years away, so I’ve been waiting for 2 years already, one more won’t be anything because now it gets serious…tonight we start writing Wedding Invites out (that will take a long time) buy stamps and slowly send them all out. It will feel all the more real once we have done that, and as well as that, time goes by so fast…the day will come soon enough so now I feel like we don’t have enough time to get it all ready! so much to do and now theirs only a year to go, it gets a little scary because you know it’s coming…it’s not so far away any more…I still have to hire out suits for me and my groomsmen…I wonder what I’ll look like in my suit…I hope Emma likes it.

Started to write out all of the wedding invites which is a big task in of itself when you realise just how many you have to write out! I’m just glad I still write with pen and paper at times, I shudder to think how future generations will struggle with this simple task when they have their I pads, phones and Laptops to type on instead…it’s going to take me a while to get them all written out and sent off across the country, it’ll be worth it though. She’s worth it…she’s worth the rest of my life…she always has been!

Just One Year Now!!! Wow!!! This time next year, I’ll be married…blows your mind…still have the stag do to sort out as well, I think Tenerife will be a good place to go to. I pray my groomsmen don’t do anything to daft to me!

Debate Over Honeymoon

We came across quite a debate today while we were in Leeds…what happened was we both came to an issue where we both had different ideas on how to spend our Honeymoon in Japan. For a while we have been saying that Japan will be our honeymoon destination when we get married next year but as we talked about it today, it suddenly became quite clear that we had different ideas of how it would go down! We had a brief argument about it, which resulted in us needing our own space for about half an hour in Leeds! We have agreed to make a list of what we both want to do and try to compromise! We both want it to be memorable but don’t want the other to not get to do what they want

What I Want

I want to see as much of Japan as I can during the 2 weeks that we will be there and that’s because once we have had our honeymoon, we our likely going to want to have children a year or so afterwards and I highly doubt I would have another good chance to visit Japan for about 10-15 years so I would want to get the most out of my time in Japan while I can.

• Tokyo
• Kyoto
• Osaka
• Akihabara
• Ride a Bullet Train
• Mount Fuji
• Japanese Cuisine
• Japanese Lifestyle

I want to do all of these things and at the end, have memories that I’ll remember for the rest of my life, I don’t want to miss a thing and have no regrets once we board that plane back home. He feels like he won’t be able to do that if he’s going at a snail’s pace, he hates going slow, to him it’s boring and a waste of time, kind of ‘you only live once policy’

Emma’s Issue

She doesn’t want to be exhausted every night from being on her feet running all over Tokyo and Kyoto, she wants to see sights but not rush about, however Matt wants to do so much, she just hopes that Matt doesn’t forget that this is a honeymoon, not a sight-seeing holiday! They have both different ways of enjoying a holiday, one likes to explore a new culture and enjoy it to the fullest and the other does a little but prefers to stay by the Hotel Pool for most days and relax, can be quite frustrating for them both sometimes.

What Emma Wants

Emma wants to see sights, no question! The Hachi statue is a must as well as Tokyo Disneyland! however she would also like a few days to relax and not do much sometimes, she wants a hotel with a pool in it as well so staying in Kyoto is a possibility for them. She wants it to be special for them both but understands everything that Matt wants to do in Japan as he has always wanted to go there. Emma would enjoy seeing Japan but she doesn’t have as much stamina as Matt and gets tired quicker whereas he could go on for days before needing a rest. In Italy, they went to Vesuvius and Emma decided to not climb it because of her bad knees, whereas Matt who has the same problem climbed it and got an amazing view of the Bay of Naples.

Matthew’s Issue

He doesn’t want to feel like he missed out on anything at the end of the honeymoon because he feels that this will be his only time going to Japan…well when your thinking of having children, it’s not going to be easy to go very far on holiday…what with how much children cost in today’s world. He understands that this is a honeymoon and he accepts that, he wants it to be special and some alone time for them both but he’s not the kind of person who can keep still for very long when it comes to going to a new country, hell Emma loses him when they go to a supermarket, imagine Tokyo…he loves to see everything, he always has and doesn’t always enjoy just relaxing…he can do it but he gets bored very quickly, he’d rather wander the streets of Tokyo and explore something new. He doesn’t want to spend all of that money and not make the most of it when the other wants to relax so much…they can stay at home and do that for free but a trip to Japan doesn’t come about very often. To not spend thousands to just stay by a pool! It’s a rare chance to go around the world and he doesn’t want to waste that chance, not for a single second!

Conclusion

It’s tough at the moment to come to a fair compromise as both are stubborn on what they want to do in Japan, very stubborn in fact. One wants to see it all, eat it all and enjoy it all while they can, whereas the other wants to enjoy it as much as the other but relax as well from time to time. It’s quite heated as this issue continues to remain between us both. Neither one wants to back down and feels like the other is taking over the plans for the whole thing. Kind of like, we’ll do this and this and the other is like…can’t we do this instead, I don’t want to do that! the other get’s annoyed and an argument happens without a conclusion and they both go bother feeling bugged and annoyed that their voice isn’t being heard, bla bla bla your typical couple argument where the other wants to win

So what would you rather do? Get as much done as you can or Do some things and relax every now and then? We feel like we will reach a deal that will make us both happy and we will have a great honeymoon in Japan, we just don’t want to make the other feel bad about anything…oh the joys of preparing for a wedding and honeymoon!

Confessions Of True Love

This is a blog based on my experience of having a relationship, despite having Autism, a process of how I’ve coped and what I’ve learned all the way through, If you are Autistic or know someone who is, you might enjoy it, it may put a smile on your face 🙂 

I genuinely believe that I have found my one and true love and no, that isn’t just said because it sounds romantic or anything like that, it’s from the heart and I always mean it when I say it. In November of this year, 2015 I will have been with my Emma for 5 years…when we started going out with each other, I didn’t think we’d last 5 days! I don’t know, we seemed quite different at times as she seemed more aggressive and angrier than most girls I had ever met before and some of my female friends didn’t like how she’d always punch me on the arms, legs and tease me around the college car parks. However, many people keep telling me that I should write down my little love story because it sounds romantic or something like that, no idea why but what can you do.

The first time I ever laid eyes on her was during a break between classes in 2010 and my group was outside the canteen on a break, just relaxing in the mild sunshine when a lad called Shaun came outside saying that the new First Diploma students were here so we decided to go and have a look at them, well since we would be working with them in the upcoming college musical, it would be good to see what they looked like and if any obvious characteristics stuck out. Did I know when I stuck my head around that classroom door that I was going to be staring at my future wife for the first time…nope, I had no clue and I didn’t afterwards either because we were all bemused by how quiet they all appeared to be

‘Theirs only four of them!’

My first words to her were those…oh well, bit late for a retake. We found it funny how the first diploma group had gotten so small over the years and they all seemed so nervous, unlike my group that was full of energy when we all met and we clicked. So weird how after a while, we began to click and get along really well but we did but I still never imagined I’d ever go out with her! I wasn’t the most confident about relationships….the Autism didn’t really help there, brought everything down to a low but Emma was different….she was able to look past the Autism and she knew I had it because I told her…no idea why I did but I felt like I could.

University Days

Sure, when I met her I was 20 and she was 17…a 3 yr age gap but I’ve heard of 20 yr age gaps so 3 yrs sounds like nothing! we only really got a chance to speak when it was lunch and her group struggled to connect with the other two groups as only me and another lad called Leo from my group would ever really speak to them

I always thought she was so aggressive and full on from the get go, full of an attitude but at the same time, she was genuine, real and honest…I could feel it, even if everyone else thought she was a bully, I didn’t see it that way, I could see beyond that…she looked friendly and this was just her way of doing things and soon enough, I was right. We got closer and all, we’d slowly start hugging each other a bit…hugging friendly of course but I think others were thinking otherwise and now that I think about it…it may have looked like more.

I remember the long chats we would have during lunch breaks and online on Facebook, they seemed to go on forever sometimes, even if they were just about TV, games and what not, I really enjoyed them. Long chats that could last for hours, why am I boring you with Facebook chats? no Idea, I guess I felt they were important to the story, however,,,despite all of this, there was a problem…

I was sort of already in a relationship….well it had been like less than a week and to be honest, things were not going so well…it didn’t feel like a relationship at all and when I was told that she was going to leave college to follow after a band, it kind of put the final nail in the coffin for it…I was going to go to University and she was planning to go off elsewhere so I decided to end it before it got serious. In the meantime, I was really close with Emma now, I felt like she really understood me and got me! which was rare back then so it really meant a lot to me that we got along so well but still, I didn’t want to hurt my soon to be ex and I planned to tell her that it was over after College, only for me to find out that she had already gone home, so I called her but she didn’t answer her phone! so I had two choices

1. Talk to her on Thursday
2. Facebook Her

Now I know what you’re thinking, don’t dump someone over Facebook but…that’s what I went and did…rookie move there! funny how it’s only after you’ve done something that you realise how stupid it was sometimes!  Anyway, word got out and people were not happy with the way I did it but stood by me with ending it…even if College was awkward for the next couple of days afterwards. Me and Emma were now secretly in a relationship and we didn’t make it official until December a month later, to spare the feelings of everyone. Ok, so the start wasn’t the most romantic one or the best way to start but things get better.

Learn a lesson from that period of time, never dump someone over Facebook, ever! horrible mistake and I wished I had handled that situation better but what happened, happened…can’t change it now but learn from it as I’ve heard of people being dumped as a New Year starts or on Christmas Day, now that’s cold!

If anyone saw us now, they’d think we were a couple

I also remember before the new year that we had to stage our directing pieces in a show and my god! Mine was a train wreck, the two actors were beyond terrible…they started talking to their parents during the show! so that annoyed me to no end but to make things worse…I got the wrong end of the stick and assumed that a lad from the year bellow me was flirting with Emma backstage and oh boy…his face when I confronted him, grabbed the paperclip bracelet Emma had made and threw it to the side, I have never seen more fear in a man’s eyes then at that moment and to be honest…I kind of enjoyed it, not in a bully kind of way, not my style…it was satisfying to learn that if you tried, you could be intimidating if you wanted to be and he was terrified of me, I could see it…he look so scared afterwards that he avoided her for a while, he must have thought I was going to hit him or something and if the same thing happened again…I’d do it again, easily and I’d make him fear me for going near her looking smug…piss would run down his leg and he would know his place if he did try to flirt with her. Of course I was wrong that night but…I always felt like he had a massive ego anyway, that and I knew he was afraid of me after that incident…one time a month later, he was walking down the park path, he saw me coming the other way and before I could say anything, he ran across the field away from me….now, I know this because Emma told me that he asked her, what should he say…let me make one thing clear…I never actually assaulted him nor did I actually plan to…all I did was throw away a silly paperclip bracelet in front of him, raise my voice a tad and that was about it and probably given him a stare but apart from that…nothing, I even apologized to him the day after but…what can you do…I was quite protective of Emma for the first few months…I wanted people to know that.

Disney Land Florida

That aside, time past by and before I knew it, it was time for the final college play, Romeo and Juliet and apart from scaring the audience with my character, Lord Capulet and almost breaking a girls wrist in the play, College ended and I was off to University.It wasn’t the greatest long distance relationship as Emma came to visit me every weekend so we always stayed in contact and fell in love even more as time past by and apart from having surgery twice during this time, things were great…Emma helped me get past every obstacle University threw at me by giving me that confidence to overcome it all.

You have no Idea how uncomfortable it is sitting in a saddle 😛

I remember helping her get back into one of her old hobbies, Horse Riding as she had an accident before I met her and was too scared to do it again so I said I’d learn how to ride if she did as well so we did and I could see the confidence in her come back as the lessons went by, although she once fell off again but she was alright this time but it fair gave me a heart attack! I ended up paying for lunch that day to cheer her up. Those Horses were so big…shame of my fear of heights..really tried to not look on the ground and when they cantered….once or twice I almost fell out of the saddle but I got the hang of it…Emma was much better though but I can ride…just took me a bit longer is all but I was happy with trying new things and being with Emma let me do that, by helping each other out…we both grew in confidence and soon enough, even I forgot that I had Autism…I felt like everyone else…life was good.

So much has happened between us now that after two years, I decided that I could no longer live my life without her in it so after a lot of very careful planning, I surprised her with a trip to Bruges and proposed to her which you can read about here- click that link, Proposal Attempt in Bruges. I feel incredibly lucky that I have fallen so deeply in love with someone like Emma, she has changed my world and made it a much brighter place, something that I will spend the rest of my life repaying her for by giving her my devotion, my soul, my love and my heart…life doesn’t mean that much if Emma isn’t a part of it to me anymore, she is my soul mate, I feel it everyday even though we argue from time to time, she’s my angel that I will always protect. I’ve never cared so much about someone as much as I have with Emma…she’s amazing, so kind and incredibly brave, I’ve seen her overcome so much of her demons and she’s become and amazing woman, I’m so proud of her…she’s my rock, my brave little rock, my treasure.

We’ve traveled to many places together which have all been amazing and I’m sure we’ll see much of this world as well together, still got Canada, Japan, Australia and China to see yet. With Emma, I feel like I can do anything, as long as she’s here…it’s an amazing feeling, one that I’d love to stay around forever. Although learning to ride a Horse wasn’t on my list of things to accomplish, it was fun and I would do it again if she wanted to, it’s a new hobby…expensive but a hobby and she’s come with me to football games which is awesome, sometimes she yells louder than me! now we’re season ticket holders!

Being with Emma has shown me that it doesn’t matter if your Autistic or not…Love can be found…true love! I’m the happiest I have ever been and it’s all because I poked my head into a classroom and saw her there, the best decision I ever made. A condition doesn’t matter…all that matters is love, true love, after that…Autism isn’t a factor at all and it never will be again, it never should have been ever.

      Love you here, now and forever Emma

Keep Bridezilla Happy

Planning a Wedding is one tough job indeed or so I have discovered recently. So much to get done and be able to afford it all, I can see why you need to book a weeding venue so far in advance, unless your wealthy, it gives you the chance to raise the money up.

• Book Church
• Book Venue for After Party
• Get Suit
• Not get to see her dress until the big day
• Buy Wedding Rings
• Invite People
• Book Honeymoon
• Have a Stag Do
• Pay for it all (You’d like to forget this one)

And once you have done all that, you cannot see your other on the actual wedding day until it’s time to actual get married and if your the groom, you need to be their first! Really hope you set that alarm for the right time and don’t sleep in, your fiance won’t thank you for ruining her special day (Not that it isn’t special for you as well) 

I have noticed that it’s a lot easier to say to all things your bride might want for the big day, even though mine has always wanted my opinion on things and asked what I would like as well which has been nice as the days tick away and the big day gets closer for us….still a year to go at least but before I know it, it will be 6 months then 2 months then 2 weeks….then things will feel so serious…more than I will ever realise until the moment arrives that I will finally marry the love of my life.

Many secrets have been kept from me, like what kind of wedding dress Emma will be wearing on the day, she’s told her family, friends, people on my University course that she had only just met! (I had to put my fingers in my ears and look away as she told one person at the Graduation Party!) Everyone but me can know! I pray I actually like it, after all of this waiting…what if I don’t?? I’m joking, I’ll love whatever she has on because it’s not the dress I care about, it’s the girl that I’m marrying, as long as she’s there…then she could be in trackies for all I care!

But you need everything to go to plan or she will breathe fire, it’ll be like Godzilla in a dress and it will all be your fault! Little over the top but you notice them suddenly going for so much more than you thought you’d have at your wedding, over the top decorations, a cake as tall as you! To get married, you must climb so many mountains first before you climb the biggest mountain of your life, called Marriage….you’ll spend your entire marriage climbing this one….guess it depends on how big this mountain is as to how long that will be!

Who’s getting ready for their big wedding day and what kind of preparations are you having? 

A Wish List

Rather wondering how much money I should take when I go to Europe this Summer….what will it be like to sleep on a train or in a different hostel each day? I’ve always wanted to see Mainland Europe but never felt like I’d have enough time to do so. France, Germany, Austria, Italy…sounds so much fun and many places to look at in a couple of weeks

Not to mention exploring the Land of the Rising Sun, Japan next year for my honeymoon sounds awesome, a trip of a lifetime I’m calling it…seeing Tokyo, Kyoto, Okinawa, Sendai City, Mount Fuji and explore the culture, cuisine and sights, I won’t miss a thing! or I had better not because I don’t know when I’d get a chance to return once I start a family. Not saying that having a child would take up all of my time but…it’s going to take up all of my time.

But why am I going to be done all of this travelling over the next 16 Months? well I guess I have a little list of mine to tick off before I decide to settle down and start a family up with my fiance, soon to be wife but before I do all of that, I want to do all of the things I will no longer have time to do once I’m married and become a Father! I mean, when will I get to see Japan once I have a child? when there a teenager? that’s a long time in my opinion

I have some fears of being a Father

• I have Autism…will my child have it as well? If so then I intend to do my best to help them understand it and make them see that it’s ok to be a little bit different, they will always have love in my household, whether they be straight, gay or Bi…it won’t matter to me, as long as they go through life and make the most of it. But they never need to feel that a condition will hold them back.
• Will I be able to always be there for them when they need me to be, I’d like to imagine that I would but I’ve never looked after a child before, what If I’m not cut out for it?

It’s easy to have fears on the matter but i have to believe that as long as I do my best and always be there for them then everything will be ok, it has to be, no point being negative over it.

So I have decided to write-up a little list for things that I want to do before I settle down completely and become a Father, not the cheapest list in the world but here we go.

• Get a season ticket for a football team
• See Arsenal play at the Emirates
• Learn to Drive
• See WWE live
• Travel Europe
• Visit Japan 

It’s a big old place Earth, I’d to be able to see it all before I go, not have any regrets when I’m old and laying in my bed…if I get to that stage…be nice to though. the next year looks to be fun for me though, especially if I get all of this done before my wedding day…well Japan is my honeymoon so I know that one is happening! and the Europe Trip looks set to go ahead so that’s two down!

Here’s to living life!

Road To Japan

Next year, I am going to Japan for the first time ever, not for a simple holiday or as an ogling Anime fan who just wants to roam Akihabara for Cosplay Cafes and maids and what not…nope, this is for my honeymoon! Me and my Fiance have decided to visit Japan for our honeymoon right after our wedding next year, 2016. This is so we can explore the culture, see what Japan is like with it’s sights, food, people and all the in between…although I might buy at least one piece of Anime…what? be a shame to go across the globe and not so…for culture reasons!

As a precaution, I am learning Japanese so you know, you don’t get stuck in a situation that no one around you speaks English and you’ve gotten lost somewhere in Tokyo or Kyoto, I’d rather avoid that scenario. We want to climb up Mount Fuji, see Tokyo, see Kyoto, ride a bullet train, see a traditional Japanese garden, eat plenty of Japanese Food (Does going to Yo! Sushi count as practice?) go to a bath house and Emma…wants to find a dog statue that she looked up…I’m sure we’ll find it.

The reason for Japan as our Honeymoon destination was because of a conversation we had recently where we talked about having children in the next few years and I said

I want to go to Japan before I become a Father

Thinking it might hold off children for a while as Japan is quite expensive and far away from Britain…but Emma fired back with this response.

We’ll go to Japan for our honeymoon then

She got me there, I couldn’t refuse after that so now we are looking to book a 2 week holiday in the land of the rising sun, one that doesn’t require being in a tour group and I can’t wait for the trip of a lifetime, the most important holiday of my life, I hope the people are friendly. It’s going to be great, I just know it and I’ll be on my best behaviour, I don’t drink and I think I’m pleasant and friendly enough to respect the Japanese Culture and way of life.

One thing that would be amazing would be if someone who reads this and either lives or has been to Japan can offer some tips and advice on what to and what not to do in Japan, that would be greatly appreciated by us both as we want to make the most of our honeymoon.